Replies to Monica's Mother's letters

I received no written replies addressing the content of my letters from anyone, but I did receive a few suggestions of whom else to contact. Keep in mind that the letters posted below are only a few of the dozens I have written over the past five years since Monica developed health problems and about the bullying problems at school.

I received a few phone calls in reply to my letters whereby I had the opportunity to vent my frustrations, but no progress was made in my favour.

The Human Rights Commission scheduled an appointment to meet with them whereby I had the opportunity to vent more of my frustrations and bring them up to date. I was advised by the agent, “There are all these laws but at the end of the day everything is legal.”

Professionals have a support network and know all the angles.

In the end, they always come up smelling like roses.

Monica's Mother thinks...........

"Who gave these people all this authority to destroy my daughter and my relationship with her?"

My reply to Monica's Sister's e-mail

Monica's Sister doesn't understand.

E-MAIL: What are you doing??? What is this for??? So the whole world can see what exactly??? I don't understand.... Why did you do this??? Does Monica know about it??? Does Dad??? I'm so amazed that you would do something like this that I don't even know what to say.....
people aren't going to just accidentally stumble upon this page you know.... I googled it and nothing came up that was related to your page....

MY REPLY: I did this because I know how!

What Monica's Sister doesn't understand is that I'm a wonderful mother. It's my place to protect them and find them help in anyway they need it.

This is a little desperate? YES!!

What Monica's Sister doesn't understand is that I'm being persecuted for being a good mother and Monica is the big loser. This treatment is inhumane.

This is Canada and we have rights! No! I have no rights! Where does that leave my children?

Why did they do this to us? Because they can and they know how!

My Letter to the Di Bernardo Family

April 25, 2006

The Editor
The Toronto Star

To The Editor:

Re: Your Article, Saturday, April 22, 2006 - ~ Brooke Di Bernardo ~

I’d like to thank you for writing this article about Brooke Di Bernardo and wish to extend my condolences to the family.

I’m finding myself in a similar situation. I took the home school route but my attempts to help my child were ruined when Children’s Aid of York Region stepped in and mandated me to send Monica back to school. Her health deteriorated after that. She lost her hearing and now has a cochlear implant. She is still struggling with other health issues while she continues to go to school and all involved want her to try harder.

My daughter and I are now separated by divorce because of extenuating circumstances but I continue to fight this issue because it won’t go away.

I hope if this message gets to her family it might lift some guilt off their shoulders. For all the effort I’ve put into this I’ve made little progress.

My Letter to The College of Physicians and Surgeons

May 19, 2006

Dear Sir or Madam:

Re: My Daughters’ Right to Medical Attention

I have sent correspondence to your office regarding my daughter who has been diagnosed with Mitochondrial Disease but have not received a reply.

Contrary to what you may believe, I am not complaining about doctors nor am I going to sue since my legal advice has been that I will not get anywhere. I simply want my daughter to exercise her right to medical attention and to have medicine prescribed to her.

This diagnosis was made at age 12 at Hospital for Sick Children, Toronto. Although I do not agree with this diagnosis, I researched treatments available for this disease in the U.S. and other countries, not Canada, via internet. My daughter’s condition deteriorated soon after being seen at Sick Kid’s Hospital because she was not given medication and I was forced to send her to school with a very serious illness. She continues to have serious health problems and, by her father’s hand was prescribed birth control pills but no medication. Boston Children’s Hospital treats this illness with a variety of vitamins and L-Carnetyne, Japan with a mixture of cyclamede and vitamins.

Since I was unable to find proper medical attention, I had her treated through Homeopathic Doctors and her condition improved and I covered the cost of the treatment. In an effort to find medical attention for my daughter and medicine, I now have problems with the law and Children’s Aid and I have a restraining order on me. Does my daughter have a right to medical attention? Not in Aurora/Newmarket and not through Sick Kid’s. Another problem to add to the heap is that Doctors, I believe, will not go against a diagnosis from Sick Kid’s. I’m assuming they have a reputation to maintain.

In light of the recent death of Brooke DiBernardo, a 14-year-old girl from Caledon whose parents were not able to find her proper medical care, I realize that my daughter and I have taken the same path. I would like to know how to go about finding medical attention for my daughter in Canada.

My Letter to Monica's Catholic High School Principal

April 2, 2006

This letter originated from Toronto where we have freedom of speech.

I would like you to know that my family and I were victims of the Newmarket Courthouse (an all woman world) and Supreme Beings with University Degrees.

My daughter, Monica, is a student at your High School who is now in the co-op program with a placement at Chapters.

Monica is not a warrior!

I am writing to let you know that I am opposed to this placement. My daughter has serious medical issues and asking her to be at a co-op placement at 7:30 in the morning five days a week is wearing her down. My daughter has been diagnosed with Mitochondrial Disease, as your files will indicate. This is a degenerative illness and she needs special care and attention. If you take some time to do a bit of research with “Google” you will easily find the information that this illness causes stroke like seizures. Working at Chapters is added stress which is unnecessary and harmful to her condition. “I’m just an overprotective mother.” I’d like to bring to your attention that I have this option and who are you to insist otherwise?

I would also like to bring to your attention, that the first year she attended Sacred Heart your staff, her father and step-mother made it a collaborative effort to destroy her and she ended up in hospital for a cochlear implant, without my knowledge, while I was fighting with legal counsel to have visitations, whose only advice was “Be nice”. Why bother, it doesn’t work.

Contrary to what her father, step-mother and his family will have you believe, I was not abusive with my children. This was well documented by Children’s Aid when they came into my home and dragged me into court for home schooling my sick child.

The second year at your school, she lost fifteen pounds and you ran her ragged during the ten month period. She spent the summer with me, I took two months off work, took her to a Naturopathic Doctor which cost me $2,000 in fees and vitamins, I catered to her every need and nursed her back to health.

This year she has again lost five pounds and thanks to this placement is exhausted and sleeps most of the day on Saturday. I don’t know how much it will cost me this summer to nurse her back to health, again. By the way, I can’t find a job and I’m living off my savings. I have no spousal benefits after sixteen years of being an at home mom, thanks to my lawyers from Aurora/Newmarket who misrepresented me and there’s no turning back. I’m on my way to the welfare rolls unless things with the job market change.

Thanks to people like you who turn blind eye and a deaf ear to my concerns (it comes with having a University Degree these days) I now have a restraining order on me. It seems Monica’s step-mother, who lies about me constantly and has destroyed my reputation, has some ties with the Newmarket Police Department, after all she works for Ford and they have clout in your small, hick town of Newmarket. This would have never happened in Toronto. Talk about a double standard!

I rarely see Monica, thanks to people like you, and the rest of the people she is associating with who have her convinced that a social life is more important than her mother. Are you sure you’re Christian? No, you’re not!

I should also bring to your attention that Monica is now 16 and can drop out of school which would be to her advantage since your system seems bent on killing her!

I’m sure this letter will get me nowhere, on the contrary, I’m digging my grave, and, let’s face it, in a year she’ll be out of your hands and the damage will have been done, it already has and you’ve all done such a wonderful job!

You win! I can blame it on the system! One phone call from a female doctor to Children’s Aid of York Region, who refused to address Monica’s medical problems or prescribe medication, has destroyed me and my children! She is now practicing in Newmarket. Satisfied!

After all it took for the Government to promote women so they can be in positions of responsibility, when they get there they destroy women like me. Well, I don’t have a University Degree, and who am I compared to you! They make it a group effort. Don’t want us to get one up on you! What were they thinking!

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***After writing this letter, Monica's Catholic High School Principal was kind enough to find Monica a different placement without notifiying me, at all.

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This wasn't the purpose of the letter. I didn't want her sent anywhere.

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And because I caused this trouble, Monica wouldn't tell me where her new placement was.

My Letter to The Ontario Human Rights Commission

July 4, 2006

Dear Sir or Madam:

I am writing this letter to you on a referral from the Upper Canada Law Society.

Over the past four years I have been having problems with the law, Children’s Aid, the School System and the medical community concerning my daughter, Monica, who developed serious health problems, had a stroke and has slowly lost her hearing.

When my daughter’s health began to deteriorate I tried to help her by home schooling her to relieve the stress of the bullying problems she encountered everyday when she went to school and to give her some time to heal. At the time I was living in Aurora and was unable to find a medical attention for her. I took a long drive to Toronto Sick Children’s Hospital one night where absolutely none of my prayers were answered.

A short time after I started to home school, Children’s Aid stepped into my home. They totally destroyed my daughter’s life. I was taken to Court four times on home school issues and mandated to send my sick child back to school. Her health deteriorated and she is now deaf and still struggling with health problems, but she is forced to go to school by a system that refuses to acknowledge her illness and how she is suffering physically, emotionally and health wise by being forced to attend school every day.

I am attaching a few letters that I have written for your information and wonder if there is any help out there for my daughter at all?

By the way, it is an option to home school. Are you sure? There are home school groups throughout York Region, but in Aurora home schooling is a criminal offense. It was for me, not for all the rest of the parents who have been home schooling their children for years and years. I thought laws were standard across the land. Apparently not.